DJ CP #9

A while back I met up with Wayo to talk. I wanted to talk to her about dating rituals in our different cultures. She wanted to explain how it works in America first. I explained to her some of the basics: the guy has to ask the girl out, and is supposed to decide where to go and pay for the outing. I also explained that you usually go on a few dates before things get more serious. I also explained that this was the traditional way, but not the only way. I explained that depending on the girl, things could be the exact opposite. She told me that things are pretty similar in Korea, as far as gender roles and expectations for dating. She said one of the differences was that it is more important to be in a relationship in korea than it is here. She also told me that blind dates are much more common, and that family and friends like to set you up on blind dates. She also told me that you don't usually introduce your boyfriend to parents until you plan on marrying, otherwise if you introduce them, your parents will keep bugging you to get married! Then we talked a little bit about marriage. I talked to her about how marriage is changing in America, saying that it has become more popular to get divorced in recent years. I also told her that more young people are waiting longer to get married. The I brought up the subject of gay marriage. Wayo said she didn't understand why people would be against gay marriage, since it doesn't affect anyone besides the people married. I tried to play devil's advocate and explain to her the reasons people give, which are religious reasons as well as beliefs that children must be raised by a man and a woman.